I belong to a weight loss group on Facebook. Something happened this morning and this woman decided to leave. It’s not the first time I have seen this happen. I belonged to the Twinless Twins Facebook page and I eventually left because of the lack of respect for everyone. Before I went to a TT conference I probably would have thought that losing your twin as a baby wouldn’t be the same but the more I learned the more I realized it’s just different. There loss isn’t LESS than my loss. I don’t know what it’s like to go through life with only one photo of my twin. I was able to make memories with Janet.
I also had to leave a support group because I didn’t feel my loss was respected because I hadn’t lost a spouse. I felt like I should have been supported by the facilitators whose job it was to create a safe environment for everyone. Losing a twin is not the same as losing a sibling. I lost my partner, my other half.
Losing 3 family members has meant that there have been times when I needed to create space for myself. Thankfully my friends have respected that. I’m not perfect there have been times when I don’t agree with something someone is doing but I respect the fact that it’s their choice.