Why is respect such a foreign concept?

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I belong to a weight loss group on Facebook. Something happened this morning and this woman decided to leave. It’s not the first time I have seen this happen. I belonged to the Twinless Twins Facebook page and I eventually left because of the lack of respect for everyone. Before I went to a TT conference I probably would have thought that losing your twin as a baby wouldn’t be the same but the more I learned the more I realized it’s just different. There loss isn’t LESS than my loss. I don’t know what it’s like to go through life with only one photo of my twin. I was able to make memories with Janet.

I also had to leave a support group because I didn’t feel my loss was respected because I hadn’t lost a spouse. I felt like I should have been supported by the facilitators whose job it was to create a safe environment for everyone. Losing a twin is not the same as losing a sibling. I lost my partner, my other half.

Losing 3 family members has meant that there have been times when I needed to create space for myself. Thankfully my friends have respected that. I’m not perfect there have been times when I don’t agree with something someone is doing but I respect the fact that it’s their choice.

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4 thoughts on “Why is respect such a foreign concept?

  1. Loss = loss. it doesn’t matter what the relationship is, we are close to people sometimes that are of no relation to us. People should respect that.

  2. I’m sorry that the Facebook group wasn’t the best environment for you. A loss is a loss and I just wanted to send my condolences to you for the loss of your twin sibling. I hope the blogging community is a more supportive environment for you. 💕

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