On Facebook there is a feature called Memories that shows your posts from previous years. Today it showed a class picture that I had posted from grade 5 I believe. The picture of me and Janet is taken from our public school graduation which is 31 years ago. I am friends with a lot of my public school classmates on facebook. The passage of time means many are married, have children. Maybe they have moved away or in the case of my friend far, far away. But each person will comment on a picture and even though many years have passed the memories are still fresh. Each person has their own memory. Or there are memories that I had forgotten until someone else brings it up. I stayed with a friend when I went to Vancouver. Despite the fact that it was almost 20 years since we had seen each other it was like no time had passed at all.
Recently a picture came up when my cousin came to visit when she was here for a festival downtown. It was hard to believe that it has been 5 years since it was taken. We were going to go for coffee and Mom suggested that she come to the house. Since we lived across the street from our grandparents she kiddingly said I think I can find it. Those photos and memories became extra special because Mom died a little over a year later. As much as people may complain about Facebook it was how she and I reconnected.
Yesterday a friend helped me with some stuff. We have known each other for years as we grew up in the same church and helped with Sunday School. She was someone where our relationship didn’t change after Janet died.
There are always going to be those people in our lives that are only in our lives for a season. The people that we classified as friends are now acquaintances. Time often gives us perspectives on things that we couldn’t see in the moment. As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that it’s inevitable. There is no explaining why some friends stay forever and some don’t. Those forever friends are gifts.