Being friendly

I was trying to decide what day to get a haircut and had decided on today as long as my back co-operated. The salon (and I use that term loosely) I go to doesn’t open until 10 so I was puttering around the apartment until it was time to go. At 9:30 I get a knock on my door. Oh that must be my super to change the lightbulbs. There are dirty dishes in the sink and my clean laundry on a chair. Oh well. I wrote out a list for Shoppers and gather up my stuff and press the button for the elevator. Oh shoot my cellphone is on the table beside the charger. Go back to apartment open the door and quickly grab it. When I come back out I see someone waiting for the elevator on her phone. So I told her that’s what I had to run in and get. Oh you are the one who pressed the button. I wondered. So I told her “It’s magic”. I never catch someone taking the elevator at the same time.

I go into Shoppers and realize I forgot my list on the counter. Yeah it’s going to be one of those days. I think I can remember everything. I get up to the cash register and the guy asks if I need a bag and I had one. Saving the planet one bag at a time he says. He totalled it up and I asks if I want to use my points. YEAH I DO! If I go to Shoppers I always try to have some stuff on hand since I don’t go that often. I had planned on sitting in Starbucks and having a coffee but it was completely full. I did have to use the washroom so I bought a snack. I paid with cash and got my change purse out and the cashier tells me that she likes my change purse. It has Paris on the outside. My Uncle bought it a couple of years ago. She told me she just puts all her change in her pocket. It’s old school but I use it for my farmers market purchases in the summer so I don’t have to break a $20.

Doesn’t the day start out better when we come in contact with people being friendly. It brings a smile to your face.

I’m thankful for…

1. The changing seasons. Right now I’m looking out at dirty, slushy snow. I’m not a big fan of winter anymore but it makes me appreciate the changing seasons more! I guess I should be thankful that it’s not -10 outside.
2. A full refrigerator. Yesterday I had to rummage through the cupboard to find half a bag of rotini and a can of salmon that I had for lunch. The funny thing was even with a full fridge I still couldn’t decide what to have for dinner last night.
3. A working dishwasher again.
4. A basic t-shirt that is LONG! It’s like the story of goldilocks and the three bears. This one is too thin, this one rides up and this one is just right. And if I find one that I like I buy 2 for when it wears out.
5. Online shopping. I couldn’t find a pen that worked…order from Amazon. I found a really nice birthday card for my friend.
6. I’m thankful that all my shows that I watch are back on. I love watching Home Town. I love that they are creating homes for people and not “show pieces”
7. Long time friends, neighbours and friendly supers

Share your world

Is “hello” enough for you these days?
I think there are different ways to say hello. If I’m in the elevator I smile at the person getting on. Maybe someone says “have a nice day”. I hate when someone doesn’t even look up from their phone.

Do you believe in Murphy? For those who aren’t familiar with Murphy, here’s a wee explanation: Murphy’s Law is an adage or epigram that is typically stated as: “Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.”
See yesterday’s blog on Monday peeve. Oh yes I believe in Murphy’s Law. Murphy’s Law means something will break around Christmas. I’m still waiting for dishwasher to be fixed. A container will fall on the floor on the opened end. I dropped almost an entire container of margarine on the floor. And have you ever tried rolling aluminum foil back up after it has dropped on the floor? It’s not going to happen!! My Mom always said things happen in 3s and yesterday that was proven. My friend believes in that too.

Are intelligent people more or less happy than others? What defines intelligence?
This is an interesting question because intelligent people probably have a higher paying job so it boils down to does money buy happiness? Happiness is an internal thing. If I look back at my life the happiest times where as a child playing in the snow. I was thinking about this the other day how as a child we got out and play with little effort. Now we have to finish the to-do list before we play.
What defines intelligence In society intelligence is defined by A’s, a six figure salary and the right job. “STATUS” My Mom used to say that I had street smarts. Just because someone has book smarts doesn’t mean they are emotionally intelligent. My Dad measured intelligence by societies standard and my Mom was much more impressed with someone who could figure things out on their own. My grandmother was the smartest person I know but she didn’t have a piece of paper saying she was. She knew how to do a lot of things.

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The Monday Peeve

Ok, it’s really not a peeve more of an annoyance but I’m going to include it for today. Last Monday I phoned my super because my dishwasher wasn’t draining. Unfortunately because of the holiday they wouldn’t be able to come until after the New Year. Friday around 1:30 I get a knock on the door that they are here. Of course they have to get a new hose for the dishwasher and a new pipe for the trap underneath the sink.
This morning I just finished drying my hair and hear my name called. I’m here but I’m just not dressed. Fran had phoned to warn me that they were coming up but I was in the shower…of course. Oh my goodness what are the chances that they come exactly at 9? So of course my super teases me “what are you sleeping until noon?” Thank goodness I had cleared off the counter for the grocery people.
Yesterday I had to do a 24 hr urine test for my kidney Dr. It’s definitely a peeve because it’s awkward to do when you don’t drive. Unfortunately because of sciatica pain I was unable to go and get the jug until recently and felt like I got called down to the principals office when they phoned to ask if I have done it or not. I couldn’t remember when my next appointment is so I rummaged through my purse and found the card.


Last night I turned on the New Years Eve show on ABC but didn’t know any of the entertainers so I started flipping to see what else was on. I happened upon CNN and they had Anderson Cooper and Andy Cohen. They were sharing stories (well kind of risqué stories to be “honest”) about his mother and they both laughed. Then I was completely shocked when Anderson segued into this…
Talking to the camera, he said: “There’s a lot of folks watching tonight who are home, maybe they’re alone, maybe they’re hanging out with a loved one, maybe with their pet and watching us and I just want people to know I and Andy are thinking about everybody for whom tonight is difficult,” he said. “It’s not really talked about much. It makes people feel uncomfortable. It’s probably awkward right now for my friend, Andy.”
“No,” Cohen chimed in. “I think it is important. It can be a very lonely night for people. And that’s why we’re here. We’re all just hanging out and we’ll all get through it together.”

He’s right, it’s not really talked about. When you have a recent loss it’s anticipating all the firsts. I remember a twinless twin friend telling me that it’s the start of another year without our twin. My grocery lady is such a character and when she left she gave me a hug and said “we made it through another year”. One week she asked if I had any family and I showed her the family picture I have hung in my entrance way. On Monday she said I can feel her around you. I didn’t know what to say to that. It took me a long time before I was open to seeing signs. I bought a new outfit to wear to lunch out with my cousin for Christmas. The top was red and shimmery. When I put it on I looked a lot like Janet. The shirt came in 2 colours and I debated whether to get gold or red (it’s almost wine colour) but decided on red. I never thought about the fact that maybe she is guiding me more than I realize. This Christmas was difficult and I missed my family a lot. I realize now that I got gifts that I needed. My cousin gave me an angel. My friend gave me comfort in the form of a card. A hug from my grocery person at a time when I needed one.