Share Your World 6-29-2020

Must we have evidence to know the truth? Nope, it’s called Faith

How much control does a person have over their life?
It depends on what age you are. When you are a child you have very little and get older you get a little bit more freedom. Did I have control over my life once I became an adult? Not a lot. I could buy my own clothes but if my parents didn’t approve of me wearing something to church or out to dinner I had to change. Money while it was mine they put their 2 cents in. I wouldn’t say I really had a lot of control over my life until I had my own place. Right now we are following the rules set out by government for our safety.

What is gravity and how does it work?
What comes up must go down

Can a person be happy if they have never experienced sadness? How about vice versa?
I answered this question in a blog post about the movie Inside Out
Joy and Sadness are lost in the movie. When I got to the end of the movie I realized that it isn’t a kids movie because the concepts would be lost on them. Joy and Sadness have to go together. I know it doesn’t make sense but how do we know what Joy feels like if we don’t experience sadness? When my niece was born the joy was so big because we had experienced so much loss. The joy of a picture drawn from the heart in my Christmas card. The joy of hearing that my friend is coming to London next year after my year of heartache. Even looking at a picture of my Mom on the screen at church yesterday…there is joy in the memory but sadness too.

Just wear the mask

About a month after everything shut down in my city (and the rest of the world) I had to go for bloodwork. A friend of mine had been sewing masks so I asked her if she still had one available and she dropped it off for me. At that time it wasn’t mandatory to wear a mask and I was the only one that did. My neighbour drove me (I sat in the back) and even she looked at me strangely for wearing one. A week ago I had to get fasting bloodwork for another Dr. Needless to say the combination of wearing a mask and not having anything to eat wasn’t pleasant but I did it.
I recently went into Shoppers Drug Mart where I counted only one person out of 6 who wore a mask besides myself. I actually had to pass someone in the aisle and he wasn’t wearing one. It’s why I have my prescriptions delivered because I don’t feel comfortable going into a smaller store where people aren’t wearing a mask.
This morning a friend of mine wrote that she had to tell someone to move away from her at the grocery store. I haven’t been in a grocery store since this started and that is why.
As someone who grew up with a family member who was immune compromised because of a kidney transplant I was always aware of taking precautions if I could. When flu shots were given out for free at the high school near us Janet and I both went to get one. At the time I don’t think we ever got the flu but we weren’t doing it for our sake but for hers. Early on she couldn’t get a flu shot because of her transplant.
I guess this is what I don’t understand about the people that refuse to wear one. Sure it’s uncomfortable, hot and if you wear glasses you are going to fog them up. But you aren’t doing it for yourself you are doing it to protect others too. I have friends on Facebook that post the numbers. California has reached 200,000 cases. I don’t know how many deaths that is. Maybe we should start thinking of that death could be someone’s mother, father, husband.

The Monday Peeve

Honestly I almost feel guilty for saying this is a peeve because there are so many more important things to worry about but since this is my blog and a place to share my feelings I’m going to.
Yesterday was our birthday and it was the strangest one I have ever had. I made the best of it since I couldn’t go anywhere. I kept myself busy. I sent my grocery list and added a half cake and gerbera daisies. Specifically yellow and red. When my grocery person came he handed them to me and they are cranberry red and white. While they are pretty on the table they aren’t even close to what I wanted.

This is the first year where I haven’t gone to the grocery store or the flower shop down the street to buy my own flowers. And it just makes me so sad. And honestly a little bit angry at the normal things that covid has taken away. Yellow and red are our colours since we were little and the flowers are symbolic for me.

Tomorrow

As I sit in front of the computer I am trying to find the words to even express the emotions that I am feeling right now and I’m not sure I can. I know this week I’ve felt mostly numb. This will be the strangest birthday I have ever had and that even includes the year after my twin died and the year my Dad died. The thing that helped was knowing that I had things planned…people to share it with. I can’t do that this year. I had considered going to the spa but the idea of wearing a mask while having a manicure doesn’t feel very relaxing.

A friend mentioned in an email that hopefully we can “celebrate” later not realizing that isn’t the word I even use anymore. I honour the day that we were born. I honour our twinship but it’s a day that is filled with mixed emotions. I remember a woman at the church I grew up in that would was on the committee that phoned people for their birthday. She would say I’m thinking of you because she got that it wasn’t happy. But at the same time if someone did I would take it with the intent that it was given. I wish I could say that it gets easier with time but birthdays are one of those things that never will.

I go to Idlewyld because I like to have the opportunity to get dressed up and have a day that is special. Having my nails done is a treat. I will order in something for dinner tomorrow (as of yet I haven’t decided what). I can just hope for the best day possible.

The 5 Things I love about summer

Enjoying a morning coffee outside. Eating lunch or dinner on the balcony.

Summer Festivals (which aren’t happening this year)

THE FOOD. Strawberries, watermelon.

Manicure. It’s my treat for my birthday

Not having to wear a coat!!

Enjoying a little normalcy

Today did not start off well with attempting to get a haircut and learning that we need to make an appointment. Going into Shoppers Drug Mart and learning the blood pressure machine is not in use. By that time I couldn’t remember what I needed so picked up a couple of things and went home. Oh yes and we aren’t allowed to use reusable bags. All I could think about was how much I would like it to get back to normal. I couldn’t even stop for a coffee.

When I emailed my friend this morning to tell her about my experience she said I hope you enjoy some time on your balcony today it’s a beautiful day. So I decided to walk to the coffee shop around the corner and get a treat. It’s actually OPEN. Oh my goodness how great to see people, talk to a person at the counter. When I was in the coffee shop there was a mother and young daughter ordering and then a guy came in after. I even saw the owner. The mother and daughter sat at a patio table and the owner smiled at me when I passed. It was so NORMAL, PLEASANT. I got a frozen dragon fruit and an oatmeal bar. I am sitting on the balcony listening to the birds chirping with a slight breeze. I have to take advantage of this as it’s going to get hot towards the end of the week.
Sometimes a bad day can turn around with the smallest things.

Ordinary

Right now I would look forward to “ordinary”. A world where we didn’t have to use the terms “social distancing”, “increasing your bubble” and “flattening the curve”
This week my Uncle was able to return a stack of books to the library and take out new books. He is someone who goes to the library at least once a week. Patios opened on Friday. Someone posted a picture of their coffee cup on the table because even though it’s such a little thing it’s the fact that we can get back to something that resembles normal that makes it exciting.
Also on Friday I learned that we can increase our social bubble. While people who live in a house can see people living in an apartment means I’m limited. The minister of health announced that we can HUG! WHAT??!! A few weeks ago my friend posted on her Facebook page a question asked in the sermon. “What have you learned”. I was thinking about it yesterday and it’s the value of a hug. Don’t get me wrong I always valued it but when I couldn’t give one to someone it’s hard. There is value in the ordinary things that we take for granted. Being able to go for coffee with a friend. Going out for dinner. Getting a pedicure. Even something as ordinary as going to the Dr’s office.
Right now we are holding on tight to the things that bring us a little bit of normalcy. Kids out riding their bikes. Going for ice cream. A friend can’t go to the beach so she bought an inflatable pool. Even joking on Facebook about the joys of Amazon.

10 of my favourite feelings

1. Joy of being able to see my friend again. Yesterday the Premier announced that more things will be opening which means salons (woo hoo), spas (manicure) and restaurants with patios. I’m not sure whether my usual place will be open by my birthday but I can go after.
2. Savouring the first bite of a juicy strawberry in the summer
3. The satisfaction when I find the perfect gift for someone
4. Falling off the chair laughing at youtube videos
5. Slipping in to cozy pjs
6. The feeling of love I get when friends wish me a happy birthday.
7. Getting a manicure
8. A hug is the best feeling in the world
9. Sitting on my balcony with a morning coffee
10. I’m going to end with a quirky one but every woman can relate…taking off the bra at the end of a day

Frame

My friend nominated me for the life is good challenge on Facebook where you post a picture a day for 10 days. Choosing something that is meaningful to you. It was harder than I thought because even though I have many pictures on Facebook how do I choose the ones that are meaningful? What do I want the photo to express. The photo she chose was when we went to dinner the first time we had met up again in 9 years. She is holding the photo book that I made for her from photos of my visit to her in Vancouver in 2007. Within that frame of the picture there is many years of friendship.

Photos capture a moment in time in our lives. On Facebook we show the good moments. But going through an album many years later the candid photos are the ones that get remembered. Mom taking our picture on the monkey bars in our backyard. When grandma captured a sneeze on film and wrote on the back…oops a sneeze. When Janet fell the first day of school and scrapped her chin. Janet got her tonsils out just before our 6th birthday and lets just say she does not look happy. At our cousin’s wedding in 1985 there is one picture where the kids look presentable and then there is the real picture where we are running around on the lawn. The photo at another wedding just before my cousin fainted.
And each family member can look at a photo and have a different memory. My Mom would remember having to wait for my brother to get his pants hemmed for a wedding the day of. Or looking at the perfect shot of Dad’s siblings without knowing it look 3 tries to get there because someone had their eyes closed or wasn’t looking at the camera.

How do we choose to frame our lives? Sure we can add filters to a photo but real life means showing the imperfections. Sometimes the real moments make the best stories.

Finding joy in the little things

What is the one thing in life that you are most excited about right now? Why?

To be honest there isn’t a whole lot to be excited about but I’m trying to think of the good things. That’s why I did a post on the things I’m grateful for because there is so much darkness in the world right now.
I think I’m going to do a similar post to yesterday and just do a list of things. I hope it’s ok that I’m taking liberties with the question.
1. Dragonfruit drink. It’s my new summer fav. I had it last year at Starbucks and not only is it colourful but it tastes refreshing. The coffee shop around the corner has it. But they have it 3 different ways…regular, sparkling or frozen. Too many choices for me!!
3. Gelato. Unfortunately this will have to wait until I can go with a friend but it will be a nice summer time treat.
4. Strawberries. I LOVE it when local produce is in season. The season is so short so I have to make sure that I remember to get organized and freeze some too.
5. It’s my birthday month and while I can’t get a manicure or have lunch at my usual place I just have to get creative. The restaurant down the street from me on Richmond has delivery. Honestly I can’t decide between Gnosh or the Greek restaurant. I could order from Swiss Chalet but I’m trying to support the small businesses.

Hmm it’s interesting that all of these things revolve around food. Summer has always been a time for me to try new things. There are days when all I can think about are all the things that I’m missing but I can still sit on the balcony with a coffee or a cold drink. I can still read a book it will just have to be online.