Christmas parcels

Today I got the last of my items that I ordered for friends for Christmas. I cheated a little for one friend and used credit card points to purchase a gift card for a home store. She recently redid her bathroom so I thought she could buy something useful for the house. Plus I can just tuck it into her Christmas card. I made coasters for a friend with a picture of the Santa House in Victoria Park. She is incredibly homesick so I thought that would be appropriate. Now to get it in the mail since it’s going a long ways!

That’s one of the things that I’m going to miss the most this year is seeing someone open their gift. There won’t be hot chocolate and gift exchange with my friend this year.

Anticipation is a good work for the year 2020 because we always seem to be waiting for the other shoe to drop. We are waiting to see what the numbers are if families will even be able to celebrate together. I don’t know whether I will put up a tree this year. I think it will depend on how I feel in December. I’ll certainly put up decorations.

I’m hoping I can maybe Facetime with my friend in Australia. Maybe a phone call with my coffee buddy. Just making the best of it.

Small joys

List fifteen of your small joys

  1. That first cup of coffee in the morning
  2. A fresh haircut (desperately needed at the moment)
  3. Delivery from one of the vendors at the market
  4. Watching small businesses thriving
  5. My grocery delivery people…they are all special
  6. The Holderness Family…they make me laugh
  7. Sending that perfect gift in the mail to a friend or family member
  8. Clean dishes
  9. Facetime with my friend
  10. Getting a treat from the coffee shop down the street
  11. Watching Home Town (Dad jokes)
  12. Smiling at a memory of people I love
  13. Fuzzy slippers
  14. Comfy pjs
  15. The perfect sunset

What day is it?

In less than a week it will be November. I recently signed up for an online book club and we are reading The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown. I got an email with what we are supposed to do to prepare for the course. The first item was join the Facebook group and introduce yourself. I find introducing myself online really weird but I actually introduced myself as a blogger. I’ve never been in a book club so this is definitely out of my comfort zone.

Yesterday I got grocery delivery. My grocery guy did not email back with a confirmation so I wasn’t even sure whether someone was coming. I literally got back in from taking out recycling when he buzzed. I had him make an extra stop at the post office to pick up some items for parcels that I’m sending. Usually Canada Post gives a mail by delivery date for international letters and packages but with the volume this year all they said was get your stuff out early. I figure if it gets there really early I can just tell them don’t open til Christmas. I think we need to spread a little joy this year.

Sunday night I watched a new episode of Home Town. The first house that they showed the woman was a carriage house and it was really creepy. There was this neon green hood vent in the second house and Ben said “doesn’t it remind you of Super Mario Bros?”. Of course there were plenty of Dad jokes and the guys pulling a prank on Jim. Tonight there is a 2hr episode of This is Us. Next week Private Eyes comes back plus The Good Doctor.

November 1 also means holiday movies on The Hallmark Channel or W Network in Canada. UGH can’t they wait until December? And 99% of them are sooo sappy. Or they have very little plot. Some are helped by good chemistry between the leads.

In another week I will probably flip back and forth between channels to follow the election results.


I actually knew what my peeve was going to be today on Friday. I recently posted on Facebook that I’m almost finished my Christmas shopping. I didn’t do it on purpose it just so happened that I found the perfect gift for people online (and most local). Most people wrote good things but one person did not.

I’m not sure whether covid is making things worse but it certainly isn’t helping. Haven’t we all been told in our life that if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all. Don’t judge the person that orders take out…they are supporting a local business. We all have a different comfort level when it comes to dealing with what is going on right now. We need to respect that everyone is just doing the best they can.

Just for fun quiz

1. What are your thoughts on green pea soup?

So gross. My Mom told me that she wouldn’t feed us peas as a vegetable when we were babies because she couldn’t stand it. My Dad liked the bean and ham soup (it smelled disgusting though)

2. Would you rather be Bette Midler, Kathy Najimy or Sarah Jessica Parker?

In relation to the movie or in real life? Bette Midler

3. Do you carve pumpkins or do you consider it to be a violation of their civil rights?

I remember I did when I was younger although we never had one at home. It was at youth group.

4. Have you ever screamed whilst watching a horror movie? (Legitimate screaming, not mere gasping or knocking over your wine glass.)

I’ve never watched a horror movie.

5. Who was the actual killer in the original “Friday the 13th” movie?

See above answer.

6. As a young child and presumed trick-or-treater, did you carefully plan the streets and houses you would conquer, or did you rush up to each one you could find, full of great expectations, thus setting you up for a lifetime of disappointment?

Yes. We only did the streets around us. We would start at the end of our street and do a circle. We would end up at my grandparents apartment across the street. They would sit in the lobby with a bowl of candy.

7. As an adult and presumed non-trick-or-treater (not judging if you still do), have you ever turned off your porch light on Halloween night because you just weren’t in the mood and/or somehow forgot it was Halloween despite the candy displays that have been in every grocery store since Labor Day?

Yes. After my Dad died we couldn’t be bothered but by that time we only got a handful of kids.

8. If dared, would you stand in front of a mirror and repeat “Candyman” five times?


9. Do you remember the time when you could safely eat anything in your collected stash of treasures without fear or worry?


10. Do you remember the time when those treasures might be popcorn balls or candied apples because grownups made an effort to do it up right for the children of the neighborhood? And we would say thank you, ma’am, and really mean it?

There was a lady that gave out popcorn balls. It was the reason we went to that house! You got to know which houses gave out the best chocolate bars.

11. Do you believe in ghosts? Spirits? Lingering traces of what once was?

I answered this recently. I believe that my parents and my sister are always with me. To answer the question I guess I believe in spiritis.

12. Have you ever read “Something Wicked This Way Comes?” (Because Ray Bradbury is a master, and you should.)


13. If you were raised in a country or culture that doesn’t observe Halloween, do you have a similar holiday or time of year? We all have shared experiences, but they often go by other names…

14. Did you (or your parents) make your own costumes as a child, or were they store-bought?

I don’t think store bought costumes were really a thing when I grew up but we made our own costumes. I went as a witch and I used the cape that my Mom wore when she was pregnant and my grandmother made me a hat. My sister went as an old woman and wore my grandmother’s coat, purse and they must have bought the wig somewhere.

15. What are your thoughts on school systems and communities having “Fall Festivals” instead of “Halloween Parties”?

Either one is fine

16. Did you ever read a scary book, in your bed and under the covers, with a flashlight?

I’ve never read a book in bed period

17. Who is your favorite horror author, if you read such? If you don’t, why are you still taking this quiz? Just kidding. Sort of. (Alternative question: What author best reminds you that life is far too short to read anything that isn’t worth your time?)

18. What horror movie series starred a young Johnny Depp in the first installment?

19. Would you rather walk through a remote cornfield in the middle of the night, talk to a clown that you discover in a sewer grate, be the winter caretaker at the Overlook Hotel, live in the last house on the left, sign the guest register at a questionable motel that features a taxidermy theme, or use an ATM in the bad part of town at 3AM?

Questionable motel

20. If you were to write a horror story about your own life, would you change the names of the people who did you wrong?


21. If you were offered the chance at everlasting life, albeit with some not-so-good side effects like having to suck the lifeblood out of innocent people who happened to be in the Ikea parking lot at just the wrong time, would you do it?

No. I wouldn’t want to live forever

22. Of all the people who have passed before us, known or unknown, who would you most like to see sitting across from you at a table in a tapas restaurant in southern Spain, with that golden sun making everything surreal yet perfect, and you can just talk and talk and talk? 

My twin. I miss talking to her.

Share your world Oct. 12


Are we “here” or do we just think we are?  (A metaphysical question today folks.) Can you prove your point of view?

I can prove I’m here in relationship to other people. A connection.

From an identity stand-point, which would be the worst for you personally to lose?  Your face, your body or your voice?    Which do YOU identify with most strongly for your own sense of self?

This is easy…my face. Growing up a twin I look like my twin. Even my grocery lady looks at my family photo when she comes and tells me you look so much alike. Even though I no longer have short hair I can still look in the mirror and see her.

Do you have a ‘song’?  If you’re part of a couple, you could use “your couple’s song” OR a song that’s just always resonated with you.

This is funny question because if you asked my Mom it would be “My way” by Frank Sinatra. Apparently if she asked me to do anything I had to do it my way. In different times in my life I think I resonated with different songs. “The Climb” by Miley Cyrus.

“Spooky” Halloween Question:  Oooo!  BOO!  

Are ghosts real or has someone been smoking something and just imagines them?

In that someone can haunt you…no…but I believe that my family is with me and guiding me. I believe the ghosts of our past haunt us sometimes.

GRATITUDE SECTION (as always strictly optional)

Please free free to share a moment of gratitude you experienced over the past week.

On Friday I got my grocery lady. I was having a tough week and she started talking about how her niece asked what the difference was between fraternal twins and identical. How cool it is that Janet and I were split from one egg. 2 friends that told me how important I am to them.

Thanksgiving is different this year

I honestly didn’t know what to title this post today. Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and since the number of covid cases have increased in Ontario we have been told that your bubble consists of the people in your immediate family. I emailed my former neighbour and my coffee buddy and both are feeling really sad that they can’t get together with their families. My friend has elderly parents and we both know that time is precious. I feel for all the people that want to be able to see their families but know it just isn’t safe to do so. I wrote a post a couple of days ago about what I am thankful for. There are days when it takes a little more effort to see it. My friend and I both miss being able to hug someone. Having coffee over Facetime or zoom is just not the same.

There are also people like me who would give anything to have family to spend it with. I think that is what this year is showing us is that we shouldn’t take those moments for granted.

I’m thankful for…

When I first saw the word for today (which is whiff) there was only one thing I could think of and obviously I wasn’t going to write a post about that!

Since I usually do a post for Thanksgiving I thought I would write what I am thankful for. Plus this has been a week so it’s especially needed today.

  1. People who work in healthcare. The people that take my blood (I have deep veins and it’s a challenge). The dietician and nurse practitioner at the diabetes clinic who will answer my questions no matter how dumb it might sound. The Drs who are doing consults over the phone.
  2. The gift shop in St. Thomas that not only has really cool stuff but delivers too.
  3. My grocery delivery people who always bring a smile to my face. The woman today got a whiff of the baked goods and told me “I’m so mad at you for making me go in there”. The person who deals with the stress of going into a store to pick up something for me when they can’t find the item.
  4. The coffee shop down the street. Yesterday I had an awful morning starting with bloodwork and going into Shoppers Drug Mart and it was crowded. In the afternoon I got an iced coffee and the barista commented on my coffee mask. I walked home feeling so much better
  5. Friends and family. Obviously I can’t physically see them right now but we are still in contact by email and phone.
  6. Warm weather. I might be able to get a couple more days of sitting outside.

It should be serious

The past few days I have been watching CNN. Ever since covid started I try to limit the amount of news that I watch but for some reason I just can’t turn away. I sit watching the circus that is going on in the White House right now and it almost gives me a headache. Last night I came across Chris Cuomo’s show and he was about to interview the widow of Nick Cordero and there was a moment where she had to turn away from the video because it was so painful. Here is a woman that should be allowed to grieve in private but believes that she has to speak out. I can’t even fathom how people would vote for someone who deliberately puts other peoples lives at risk.

It’s interesting how serious and dumbfounded go together on a post about politics. Covid is serious. If plexiglass is good enough for businesses to use why are they arguing over using it for the debate?

At the same time I posted a video of James Corden singing a parody about Donald Trump. A friend of mine posted a photo of a menu board of a sandwich for Donald…full of baloney. I used to volunteer for people that were running for MP in my city. I grew up in a family where we respected each other’s opinion. Of course it’s a little different in Canada with more than 2 parties but the principal is the same. I have friends on Facebook that are Trump supporters. I don’t argue with them. I don’t understand why people that are friends would argue on Facebook over politics. You aren’t going to change their mind.

I can’t wait until November 4th.