What was the last TV show you binge-watched? If you don’t watch TV (congratulations by the way) what’s the last thing you binged ON?
I’ve never binge-watched a show. I will watch a Sunday afternoon marathon of Home Town.
What’s your most prized possession and why?
This is a quilt I bid on at the Twinless Twins conference in 2010. It’s my most prized possession because it was the first time in my life where I bought something at a live auction. I didn’t talk myself out of it.
If you had the time and inclination, what would you volunteer for?
I have the time I no longer have the inclination.
Do you think that humans will ever be able to live together in harmony?
I think this past year has proven that we can’t.
Gratitude Section (As always, Optional)
Yesterday I got a delivery from a local business. As we are currently in lockdown it is more important than ever to support local. Never underestimate your small part in helping a business survive.
Last night I participated in the weekly trivia night put on by a business that I support. I could physically see the frustration as she talked about the fact that they have to close again due to the provincial lockdown. Since I follow them on Instagram I messaged them with a question about one of their products. Due to medications I take I get charlie horses a lot so I thought I would try the magnesium spray. I’ve been using the foot lotion at night and it’s devine! I’ve never actually been in the store as it’s about half an hour drive away but I definitely feel like I know them because of their online videos and zoom trivia nights.
Yesterday I got a delivery from my local bakery. When covid started they pivoted and started selling meals as well such as soups, stews and pot pies. I purchased a bolognese sauce which I’m probably going to have for supper. I enjoyed an oatmeal raison cookie with my afternoon coffee as a snack. I can’t remember the last time I had a homemade oatmeal cookie but it reminded me of my grandma’s. When I emailed them to share that she said “that is the best kind of baking”. For Easter I purchased hot cross buns because it reminded me of my Mom buying them every year for my Dad. When I ate it for breakfast it made me think of him.
The coffee shop near me recently celebrated their 2nd anniversary of opening. I happened to find them by accident when I saw a post a local politician made on their page. I commented on their Instagram page that I was so glad to find a place that has that friendly neighbourhood vibe I’ve been searching for. As someone who is diabetic it’s nice to have a coffee shop that has healthier options. I was able to substitute quinoa for rice in my brisket bowl. I can’t wait until we are allowed to use the patio again!
I’ve often talked about going to the Farmers Market and being able to interact with the vendors. This year they have a new vendor that sells woodfired sourdough pizza. Pre covid I could go to Thames River Melons and have a piece of watermelon, a strawberry from Joyce Farms or a cube of bread from The Whole Grain Hearth. Despite the fact that it’s outdoors it’s recommended that you wear a mask and the customers respect that.
Right now many small businesses are unable to open for customers because they aren’t essential. All of these places are essential to someone.
Today is the first day of a 28 day shutdown in Ontario. I feel for small businesses and restaurants that are struggling. We are currently enjoying almost summer like weather and I can’t sit on a patio. Instead of looking at the negatives I’m going to think of the good things.
Enjoying lunch on my balcony yesterday
Local businesses that I can still get takeout or delivery from. Tomorrow I’m going to have bolognaise sauce over pasta (or half pasta half zoodles) for supper courtesy of a local business.
Friends that are also supporting local businesses even if I have to look at pictures of pizza
Zoom trivia nights
A new cellphone. I upgraded to a very basic smart phone 5yrs ago. I upgraded to a Samsung phone and I love it.
Freestyle Libre App on phone so I no longer have to plug in sensor to upload on computer. One less device to charge
My Dr office is willing to let me forgo having bloodwork done and just use the numbers from the Libre.
My grocery people
Essential workers. People that stock the shelves so that we have food to eat. People that deliver my medications. My accountant that did my taxes.
Vaccines. I’m way down on the list but it’s nice to see more people are eligible
Friends and family to vent to, Facetime with and share a coffee.
“How do you know which of your memories are genuine and which have been altered over time or even made up?”
On Friday nights I’ve been participating in zoom trivia hosted by a local business. A couple of times they had 80s theme nights. There was a question about a cartoon with a picture of the characters in it. It was called the “Get along gang”. Seeing the picture I remember having the doll that was a cheerleader. It was a dog with a white sweater, red skirt and white and red shoes. BUT I couldn’t remember the character that Janet had. I think it was the moose but honestly I’m not sure.
I was talking to my cousin recently and we were reminiscing about the first time they met us. I told her I remember her husband giving us cowboy boots (he was in the shoe business). I wasn’t sure of our exact age but I think we were around 9. The thing about memories is although I can’t remember the specifics I remember the feeling I had while wearing the boots. How special they were. It is interesting how after many years I’m not sure if some memories are genuine. In my mind I see this person in a yellow and black polka dot dress at my cousin’s wedding in 1988 but there are no pictures to prove it. And yet there are things that happened that day that are as clear as if it happened yesterday. The thud of my cousin fainting.
Whenever I get together with my Mom’s younger brother we usually end up talking about my grandmother’s boxes of margarine containers. Why would you need that many for 2 people? With both of these family members our memories are connections to the past and the people that we loved.
I think memories soften over time. A teacher in public school still remembered the first day of grade 1 when I screamed the whole way because I was going to be separated from my twin. A friend of mine told me years later I shouldn’t be embarrassed because that was love. We both shared that experience but she can see it as an outsider looking in.
I’m the type of person that likes the candid photo. There is a photo my grandmother took on her polaroid of us dressed in our Sunday best and I had to sneeze. She caught it at the exact moment and my hand covers most of my face. It makes me laugh. Nowadays we can capture every moment on a cellphone. We edit out the ones that are imperfect. We can’t alter our memories but in my experience I’ve learned from the good and bad.
1] Which term do you personally prefer for you ‘Home is where l hang my hat or home is where my heart is?”
Home is where my heart is. After my Mom died the home I grew up in felt more like a house because the people I loved were no longer there.
2] Do you consider where you are living now your true home or are you still far, far from home?
This is an appropriate question for me since I just past the 5 year anniversary of living in my apartment. It took a while for it to feel like home. I had to get used to monthly fire alarm checks. Unlike in a house I have to make sure I’m home for deliveries. It helps that I have superintendents who look out for me. This is my true home because it’s MINE. Every item I picked out myself. I didn’t have to get someone’s permission and there is something very freeing in that.
3] Do you think the days when families used to live close to each other and held closer tight knit communities are still present or long gone?
I think it depends on the family. I know some who do live close and others that don’t. It just takes more effort.
Yesterday we learned that Ontario will go into a lockdown for 28 days starting today. While none of the people that I talked to are surprised after a year of this many of us are frustrated and tired. I was hoping to be able to go out for coffee with my friend during “March Break” which was postponed to April. Obviously that isn’t going to happen now. I was also going to go out with my former neighbour when it was warm enough to sit outside. They even changed the rules and we can’t sit at a patio at a restaurant or my local coffee shop. A couple of weeks ago I sat at the last table and enjoyed an iced coffee and treat in the afternoon. I could have sat on my balcony but I wanted to sit and listen to people talking, watch people walking their dogs. Normal everyday life.
I was watching CBC news in the evening and they were interviewing a restaurant owner. He has been in business for 25 years and took over from his father before him. You could see and feel his frustration. There are businesses in my city that have already closed. I try to support local as much as I can. I’m getting hot cross buns delivered this morning from a bakery I support…it’s tradition! I also buy products from a store that delivers. Both are doing really well. But I also know it’s through a lot of hard work. They have a good connection with their customers.
I think the most frustrating part is a year later we are at the same place. I’m still doing Dr appointments over the phone. I don’t know whether I can go out to eat for my birthday in June. Am I ever going to be able to have in person coffee with my friend. And damnit I miss hugs!!
Patience has never been my strong suit. I know things will get better. Right now it just feels like we are going around in circles.