This seems like such a trivial peeve but we all have our “thing”. I don’t like change. Yesterday I was running low on vegetables so decided to walk to the cafe down the street and get a salad for dinner. I was going to have chicken breast and the sweet soy salad and either rice or potato. I always order ahead so I don’t have to wait in line (or shortens my time). Can I also add they should have a separate pick up area for people that order ahead! When I was scrolling through the menu I couldn’t find the salad so I ended up picking another one. When I got back home I sent a DM on Instagram asking if the salad was taken off the menu. I got a response right away from owner that it wasn’t a good seller. WHAT?? It’s so light and refreshing. Savoy cabbage, mandarin oranges, edamame and a nice sweet salad dressing. I could make it myself but cooking for one I would have ingredients left over. Many of their salads have kale. I know it’s the “IN” food but I don’t like it. I detest the texture and it’s strong. The salad that I chose was “ok” but I wouldn’t order it again.
I actually have two peeves today. I wrote recently that all my Dr appointments have been virtual for the past year and a half due to covid. I am using a Freestyle Libre for my diabetes Dr to be able to check my numbers. It’s convenient except when they don’t work! I put on a new one on Friday (after having to phone pharmacy to inquire whether it was in or not…another peeve) and I got an error reading. I then have to phone Abbott customer service to send me out a replacement. I also have to mail the “dud” back and our mail system is very slow due to covid protocols and sheer volume of packages right now. Oh yes and when I email the person at the diabetes clinic she is out of office.
My other peeve is having to buy summer clothes online due to the fact we are STILL in lockdown. There are items that are easy to buy online but capris are not one of them because it would be better to be able to go into the store to try things on. I just decided to go up a size and if it’s a little big I can always wear a belt. The trouble with pants or capris is some are slimmer fit than others. Not to mention it’s not always easy to gauge colour online.
Fingers crossed that things will open up on the day that our Premier said it would.
This morning I had a phone appointment with a dietician from the diabetes clinic. I usually have in person visits every 3-6 months depending on how things are going. If I have any questions or concerns in the meantime I can always email. Because of covid there are days when I will email and she is out of the office. Last fall they recommended I get a Freestyle Libre so that my numbers would be sent to them electronically. In March I upgraded my cellphone so I would no longer have to plug in my sensor to my PC to upload the numbers.
At the end of the conversation she asked if I had any questions so I asked about in person appointments. I already received a letter with an appointment date in November for a phone consult. Since I will have had my second covid shot by then and most things would be open by then I thought it strange that I wouldn’t be able to see the Dr in person. She told me that they are going to do phone visits at least until the end of the year and it’s possible that it might be indefinitely.
There are pros and cons to the idea. Since it’s early I can sit in my pjs. I don’t have to take transportation to the clinic and wait in the waiting room and wait again in the office. I don’t get asked the 20 questions by the assistant…although this depends on whether I get a new person over the phone. It’s less formal. I feel a lot more at ease in my own home. CONS I have to make sure I take my weight and BP myself. They aren’t doing a physical exam. Someone checks my feet. Not knowing whether you are being fully heard if they can’t see your face. Having to write down all my questions beforehand.
I don’t know whether this will be our new normal. It seems strange to say I actually miss going to the Dr. We already live in a world where we can order groceries online, do our banking online. Less physical interaction. After a year of elbow bumps instead of hugs we need MORE interaction not less.
What are you most proud of in the last year?
I learned a lot of new technology…well new to me. Because of covid Dr appointments were all virtual so the nurse at the diabetes clinic set me up with a freestyle libre. The first time I opened it I couldn’t figure out what went where but now I’ve gotten the hang of it (except when the container is stuck). I had to upgrade my cellphone recently. I figured out how to change the ringtone and change some settings. I can now make notes on the freestyle libre app so I don’t have to do a separate food journal. I used zoom and FaceTime.
There are days when I think “I’m just glad I got through the year”
If you see a puddle on the ground, do you walk around it or give in to the child within and splash about?
It depends on how big the puddle is. There were times I would go to the Farmers Market after it rained and I had no choice because it was right in front of the table.
Do you feel free? Why or why not?
Seeing as Ontario is still in lockdown I’m not.
What life skills are rarely taught but are extremely useful?
Cooking. I don’t know if it’s still taught in high school but very few people even took the class over 30 years ago. Everybody should know the basics.
Budgeting. My parents taught me this.
Thank you notes, RSVP and condolences. While not necessarily life skills they are common courtesies that should be taught. When someone died my parents usually sent a donation because it was the right thing to do. I’m so glad that they modelled that for me.
GRATITUDE SECTION (always optional)
Please share some gratitude with everyone!
I’m thankful that things are opening up soon in Ontario. More people are being vaccinated everyday. I’m grateful for friends and family.
This afternoon I learned that a first cousin of mine on my Dad’s side died. He was a week shy of 67. I feel for his kids because I know what it’s like to lose a parent.
It also brings with it mixed emotions. I have so many memories of being at his Dad’s house and he would tease us. I remember him picking my brother up by his feet and lowering him slowly into the pool. He was the type that really would throw you into the pool. In 1986 there was a family reunion near Toronto. My cousin was bored so he took all of the kids to McDonalds. His Aunt and 2 cousins lived in the same city as us so he and his wife would often drop in unannounced to our house. One time his wife told him we really should have called first and he told her “what and ruin tradition?”
This afternoon I pulled out a wedding album filled with photos from 3 weddings of cousins and a few friends. There is a picture of Janet his sons at his sister’s wedding in 2000. There is a picture of his nephew who died 3 years before Janet. I look at those pictures and it’s like it was yesterday. I remember it so vividly. But looking at family members who are no longer with us is heartbreaking. Who knew a photo can make one happy and sad at the same time.
I have written many times here that after someone we love dies memories are all we have left. We may not always get as many years as we would like but that love lives on in our hearts forever.
Due to covid I have been ordering a lot of items online. I try to shop local as much as I can (free local delivery) but with stores closed due to lockdown there are things I need to buy online. I ordered 3 things on Amazon and they were sent out in 3 separate deliveries. Unfortunately Amazon no longer uses Canada Post and the courier company they use is not that reliable. I got an email for my first shipment that it would arrive within a 3 hr window. He was currently delivering #2 and I was #14. An hour later I get an email that it has been delivered. I go to my door and there isn’t anything there. I wait a few minutes thinking maybe my super intercepted him…nope. I phone the company and he informs me the package is still in transit. Ok then don’t send out an email that is wrong! A few days later I get an email that they couldn’t deliver my package because the address was wrong. So of course I had to phone the customer service number AGAIN! Thankfully this representative was nicer than the other one. I posted on Facebook and a friend of mine told me they lost her package and she had to reorder.
On Friday I was counting my Keurig pods and I didn’t have enough to last the weekend. No problem I’ll just walk to the coffee shop down the street and buy a bag. I have a reusable coffee filter. I measure out the coffee, go to put it in and it doesn’t fit. I recently upgraded from 2.0 to Elite. I guess you could say that is another peeve…why don’t they make these things universal (although I know it’s all about money). The reason this goes with my first peeve is that I can’t just go into a store and purchase one. It’s only curbside pickup. Thankfully I found one on Staples and they just delivered. It’s a bit of a process to use it but at least I know it fits.
Yesterday I learned that I am eligible to book for a vaccine at the health unit sites due to the fact that I am diabetic. This morning I went on the site soon after 8 and was able to get into the site no problem. When they first started the site would crash and people had to come back later to try again. After a 15 minute wait time I was able to fill out the form to book an appointment time in 2 weeks.
The past year has been a roller coaster ride. My grocery lady asked me how I was yesterday and I said I’m so tired of all of this. The lockdown is probably going to be extended into June. I miss being able to go out for coffee, get dressed up to go out to dinner or even something as simple as being able to walk into a store to buy a gift or flowers. It’s hard to see friends in the US who are able to go out to eat and return to a life that is normal.
As I see more and more people being vaccinated I have a glimmer of hope. Things will not go back to normal this summer but at least we are closer to a time when it will be. I can’t wait to give my friend and my cousins a big hug.
How do you like your sausages – straight, curved, short, long, fat, or thin or do you not even like sausages?
Interpret as you wish ….
I’m not fussy. I squeeze the sausage out of the casing to make hash for lunch with butternut squash, diced zucchini, mushrooms. I’ll have them straight on the side of french toast for Sunday breakfast.
How often [under normal circumstances] would you visit a hairdressers/barbers in one year?
Approximately every 2 months so I guess 6. Last year it was half that.
What is it specifically do you think about humor that makes you laugh – as in ‘what’s so funny to you?’ Why do you laugh at some things and not others – what is the magical ingredient for you?
This is a multi-layered question for me. I will laugh sarcastically at someone who does something dumb (ie karma). My twin and I would laugh at things that other people might not get the humour in. I don’t think there is a magical ingredient. We went to the store and laughed uncontrollably at cow manure called “MOO POO”. It’s childish but we did.
If you were convinced you had seen an alien or a UFO [from another planet] how would you make people believe you or would you not tell anyone?
I wouldn’t tell anyone.
Do you know what your place is in the world – where you fit in – and is that important to you?
This is an interesting question the day after Mother’s Day. I was thinking about how growing up I thought everyone had the type of family relationship that I had. As I got older I realized that not everyone grows up in a stable family. Being a twin I knew unconditional love. I’ve talked about this a lot that after she died I didn’t know where I fit in the world. I’m not sure I know what it is now but I’ve learned that it’s not important to me anymore to find it. I think it’s enough to be kind.
Is it important to you to get ‘noticed’ or are you happy enough to just be seen and is there really a difference do you think?
Growing up as a twin we were noticed because we were different (unique) because we were twins. After Janet died I got letters from people in high school that I didn’t know who did notice us. For me being seen means someone taking time to listen, to be heard. I’m not sure that is the “right” answer but that is the way I interpret it.
- Best sandwich? BLT because what is better than bacon.
- What’s one thing you own that you really should throw out? When I moved 5 years ago there was very little that I kept that moved with me. What I own has a purpose or is something that brings me joy (as in art).
- What is the scariest animal? Big snakes
- Apples or oranges? Apples. So many varieties and you can eat them raw or make apple sauce, or apple butter.
- Have you ever asked someone for their autograph? Yes on multiple occasions. Janet and I went to a Soap Opera Fan Fair in 1994 and got autographs from our favourite actors.
- What do you think happens when we die? We are reunited with our loved ones in heaven.
- Favorite action movie? I’m not a big action movie fan so I guess I will go with Terminator
- Favorite smell? Lilacs
- Least favorite smell? liver and onions cooking
- Exercise: worth it? yes
- Flat or sparkling? sparkling
- Most used app on your phone? My Freestyle Libre app which I use multiple times in the day
- You get one song to listen to for the rest of your life: what is it? The Prayer with Celine Dion and Andrea Bocelli
- What number am I thinking of? 100
- Describe the rest of your life in 5 words? doing the best I can
What was the last TV show you binge-watched? If you don’t watch TV (congratulations by the way) what’s the last thing you binged ON?
I’ve never binge-watched a show. I will watch a Sunday afternoon marathon of Home Town.
What’s your most prized possession and why?
This is a quilt I bid on at the Twinless Twins conference in 2010. It’s my most prized possession because it was the first time in my life where I bought something at a live auction. I didn’t talk myself out of it.
If you had the time and inclination, what would you volunteer for?
I have the time I no longer have the inclination.
Do you think that humans will ever be able to live together in harmony?
I think this past year has proven that we can’t.
Gratitude Section (As always, Optional)
Yesterday I got a delivery from a local business. As we are currently in lockdown it is more important than ever to support local. Never underestimate your small part in helping a business survive.