TV Viewing Habits

“For this week’s provocative question, I’m going to ask you about your TV viewing habits. My questions are below if you care to answer, either in the comments or on your own post. Ready?”

What country do you live in? Canada

How many televisions do you have in your home? Just one (in the living room). I could watch in the bedroom because there is a cable outlet there but I think the bedroom is for sleeping!

On average, how many hours a day do you watch TV? 3-4…depending on the day and what is on. I have the news on in the background as I am making dinner.

What kinds of programs do you typically watch (e.g., news, sports, movies, dramas, sitcoms, reality shows)? I occasionally watch morning talk shows but mostly they are dramas. I watch Murdoch Mysteries (a Canadian show), New Amsterdam, currently watching Five Bedrooms. I also love to watch HGTV…Home Town and Good Bones are my favourites.

Do you watch programs as they are aired or do you record them and watch them at other times?

I don’t have a recording device. I watch them On Demand. I often watch them on my Ipad (Global TV) so I can fast forward.

Do you mostly watch “network” TV? Premium cable channels (e.g., HBO, Showtime)? Streaming channels (e.g., Netflix, Hulu, Prime Video, Disney+, Apple+)?

I only watch network TV. I figure I pay enough for cable without adding more.

How often, if at all, do you use other devices than television (e.g., computers, smartphones) to watch programs?

Maybe once a week.

MEMORIES

On Friday I went out to dinner with my cousins. Since we were coming from Wellington we went past the house I grew up in. The Inn is on the same street. When we passed the house I didn’t recognize it but didn’t really pay much attention as we were running a little late because of traffic. When we passed it again on the way back I told my cousins “that’s it”. Neither one paid attention so my cousin turned around and parked in front of the house. It was red brick and is now painted white. I knew the side porch had been removed since the house beside was up for sale recently and I saw it online. We didn’t even use the front door. That was for company and delivery people. I remember a long time friend brought her daughters to visit at Christmas and the younger sister said “aren’t we going to the front door?” her mother answered “no, they don’t use it.” All the trees were removed out front and it just looks so modern. It was quite jarring seeing it. For someone that didn’t have the emotional attachment they would see it differently. I can’t remember the last time I went down the street as I try to avoid it. Not on purpose but it’s easier to think of it as my past. A past filled with good memories in my family home. Even as I write this it’s surprising how much the change affected me. The house that I remember was unrecognizable.

I wrote a blog post about what makes a house a home. The squeaky floors, the newspaper left on the table so that we could work on the crossword together. The family pictures on the wall. When I moved into my apartment the first thing I put up was our family picture in the entranceway. It made it feel like home.

MONDAY PEEVES

I have 2 peeves today. On Friday I wrote about the Rogers outage. For people not in Canada it’s a communications company that encompasses cable, home phone, internet and cellphone. Luckily it didn’t effect me because I only have cable with Rogers. Sunday afternoon they have a radio call in show on CBC called Cross Country. They also broadcast it on channel 26. The question of the day was whether you were impacted by the Rogers outage. An elderly woman lives alone and she couldn’t get her grocery delivery order and couldn’t contact anyone because her phone is with Rogers. She said it was really scary. In an emergency many people had no access to 911. I was talking to my super this morning while I was waiting for a cab (she was watering the plants). I knew there was someone moving in on Friday. She told me the people moving in had no way of getting ahold of them because their phone is with Rogers. Millions of people impacted and Rogers is giving customers a one day credit. How does that help the people that lost business? An apology certainly doesn’t alleviate that sickening feeling of having no way to communicate with people. In a country the size of Canada we should not have the choice of 2 companies to choose from. Don’t get me started on how much it costs too!!

This morning I went to get a haircut. Because of the construction it is quite the challenge to get in and out of downtown. The street that I live on was supposed to be finished in June! They are now working on the connecting streets and I feel like I am completely blocked in. Usually I only have to wait about 5 mins for a cab but I think it was almost 15. The cab driver even said what a hassle it is. I was telling him that after 2 years things are finally open back up, festivals are on and they do this! I wouldn’t even know where people park for the festivals. I can’t wait until it’s finished.

Technology

This morning a friend of mine posted about a Rogers outage. This is the second time in a little over a year. I remember the owner of the grocery delivery service that I used was unable to do any business because his cellphone is with Rogers. He couldn’t call his employees and he couldn’t use the debit machine because it links with the cellphone. I think I sent my person and e-transfer. We don’t even realize how much we rely on technology until we can’t use it. I’m reminded of my Dad who always had $100 in his wallet even if he rarely went anywhere. For a long time I made sure I had cash on hand but since covid I have only been into a bank once.

I decided to go to my local coffee shop for lunch. I had just enough cash on me for a sandwich and an iced tea. Despite the fact that I couldn’t use the debit machine the barista knew that I had an account with them so I was still able to get the rewards points.

I only have my cable tv with Rogers as my parents always had their home phone with Bell. I’m the type of person that doesn’t like to have all her eggs in one basket. When I upgraded my cellphone the customer service rep was very helpful. He didn’t try to sell me more than I needed.

The woman on the news said “CASH IS KING” today. And yet during covid we were told to use debit because it was contactless. We now live in a world that is very dependent on technology. All the businesses I follow can only take cash today. Which means that limits the sales they might have gotten. If you are working from home…you can’t. My Dad wouldn’t even recognize the world that we live in right now. He did not like technology. It’s nice to see that people come together to help one another.

Nighttime Rituals

This week’s prompt is: Nighttime Rituals

Did you share a room with a sibling, or did you have a room of your own?

Janet and I shared a room when we were babies but we each had our own room once we were old enough to move up to big girl beds. My room was yellow with yellow curtains with kittens on them. A white bed that was passed down.

Did you resist going to bed or did you go willingly?

I went willingly.

Did someone put you to bed, tuck you in, or read you a bedtime story?

Mom tucked us in to bed but I don’t remember a bedtime story.

Was there a religious component, like prayers, to your nighttime routine?

Yes, we did “now I lay me down to sleep” and we prayed for people in our family.

Did you go to sleep immediately, or lie awake?

Ahh to go back to childhood when I could go to sleep as soon as my head hit the pillow and only get up once to pee.

Did you journal, read a book, talk on the phone or with your siblings, or watch television when you were supposed to be sleeping?

Nope, I was a good girl.

Did you ever sleepwalk? No

Did you remember having dreams? If you dreamed, did you ever have bad dreams? Do you remember any dreams specifically?

Oh yes. My twin and I had the same recurring bad dream. We would be riding in the car and get to a bridge and all of a sudden the bridge was out and we would drive off. We both woke up at that point.

I remember we were talking about people getting remarried at dinner time once. When I went to bed my subconscious had my Mom getting remarried. We were in a dress shop and Janet was in a poofy pink dress with white dots on it. They couldn’t find my dress and my Mom was yelling at the sales lady. Janet was mad at me “why do I get the poofy dress?” Of course my Mom asked “where is your Dad?” I don’t know, I think he died. It was completely ridiculous but that’s why they are dreams.

Were you afraid of the dark? Did you sleep with a nightlight or sneak into your sibling’s or parent’s room at night because you were afraid?

Nope. On our street the street light was right across from my window so it was like a natural night light.

Birthday 2022

My Uncle emailed me on the weekend wondering if I was free to go for coffee on Monday. I changed the location to the cafe near me so I would be home around noon for my grocery delivery person. I didn’t even realize how long it has been since we had gotten together until he said. The coffee shop was almost empty so we were able to have a really good chat. It’s the only coffee shop in the city where you can stay as long as you want. There is so much construction downtown that it’s not convenient to get around and it was a little bit of a walk. Unfortunately, a lot of places have closed due to covid. There was a little miscommunication with my grocery lady since the owner didn’t get my note that I would be out in the morning but thankfully it was only a difference of about 10 mins. She bought me a container with succulents for my birthday since they are easy to take care of. The only problem is figuring out where to put it! She is the sweetest!!

Yesterday I made plans to have lunch out at my usual place. When I saw that it was going to be 34 degrees I decided to cancel and cook a nice meal at home. Honestly I wasn’t really feeling it this year anyways. For the past couple of weeks there have been nights where I go to bed and have a good cry because I miss Janet. Yesterday afternoon I got a phone call from my former neighbour. In the course of conversation she told me she was talking to a woman that is on the Pastoral Care Committee and they phone people for their birthday. She wanted my former neighbour to tell me that she remembered. While I was on the phone I didn’t know what to say. After Janet died there was a woman that I got regularly who would tell me “I’m not going to wish you a Happy Birthday…because it isn’t. I’m just going to say I’m thinking of you”. I know she “means well” (boy do I hate that expression) but she has no idea the effort it takes to get through the day.

Yesterday I had many friends wish me a Happy Birthday on Facebook. Only one wrote to both of us (a fellow twinless twin). It’s still OUR day. I still want people to say her name. It won’t make me sad because I’m sad anyway. I got a really touching note with a gift from 2 special people yesterday. Our family members that are watching over us.

SHARE YOUR WORLD 6-2–2022

QUESTIONS

What are three scents you like?

Lilacs because they remind me of my Dad. When he had cancer we made a room in the dining room for him so he wouldn’t have to go up and down stairs. He had a tv tray for his meals and I would go and pick flowers and put them on his table.

Lily of the valley. It was Janet’s favourite scent so it reminds me of her.

Freshly brewed coffee in the morning

What is something true (factual) that most other people don’t believe?

I’m not wading into that one!!

Would you rather have a massage or get a facial?

I’d rather have a manicure or a pedicure

Have you ever thrown someone a really extravagant party?

My siblings and I threw our parents a party for their 25th wedding anniversary. While not extravagant it was still a lot of work.

GRATITUDE SECTION

Feel free to share some gratitude. It can be a photo, image, quote or just some wisdom.

“Always together in my heart”. I’m grateful for memories and that love lives on.

Privilege

I have been thinking about this word a lot lately with everything going on in the world right now. The price of groceries, gas, inflation, houses etc. Talk of a recession.

On Tuesday I had made plans with my former neighbour to go out for coffee but she had to cancel. Because it was a nice summer day I decided to go to the cafe down the street and have lunch outside. If I order a sandwich or a salad I always tip. During covid I would tip even if I just got coffee or a drink to go. I realize that it’s a privilege to be able to afford to go out to eat. I pay to have groceries delivered and am able to eat healthy.

As I am typing this it is currently 28 degrees outside (at 9:30 in the morning). I recognize that not everyone is lucky enough to have air conditioning (or to not worry about the cost as I pay a flat rate per month). Every time we have a heat wave the news people say to make sure you check on people with health issues or who are elderly. My Mom used to do that with a lady who lived a few houses down from us.

When I went to the cafe on Tuesday I was feeling a little down. My day got better watching a woman greet the people and pets going by. Sometimes all it takes is a smile to brighten your day and it costs nothing.

SHARE YOUR WORLD 6-13-2022

QUESTIONS

What is one topic you really like to talk about? Or something you really want to tell people?

I want to tell people that grief is hard work. Right now I am really struggling because June is a hard month for me. Celebrating a birthday without my twin is hard. Sometimes when I go out to eat I feel like she is with me and other times I just feel alone.

What do you normally never tell strangers about yourself? (be general, I don’t need to know details or invade privacy)

I tell people I’m an only child because it’s easier.

Have you ever broken anything?  (can be health related, emotion related, or situation related – you define “broken anything” for your own satisfaction)

I was going to a friend’s house for a visit. My Dad told me to go over to the lilac tree and break off some stems to take to her. Unfortunately the whole branch broke off in my hand. All I could think was “oh man, I’m in trouble!!” But Dad just told me to go inside and get a bucket with water and put it in that. I remember when I got to my friend’s place she told me “good job” because she was thrilled to get them.

Is having a big ego a negative trait or positive trait?

Definitely a negative.

GRATITUDE SECTION:

What aspects of your city or neighborhood are you grateful for?

I’m grateful for the coffee shop down the street. The other day I got a salad and they were accommodating when I asked if I could substitute a salad dressing (I find balsamic too strong). Of course having a coffee shop so close is too convenient at times too!!

June

Tomorrow it will be 2 weeks until our birthday. Even though my twin isn’t here I still refer to it as our day. After 2 years of lockdowns I should be excited to be able to go out to eat and get a manicure (without wearing a mask) but I’m not. I usually go out for lunch and get a manicure but the spa is fully booked for that day. I emailed a local bakery that I support and because of the many farmers markets they are attending this season they aren’t making cakes right now. In a weird way it was almost easier with lockdowns because I didn’t have to plan anything.

I will be going out to celebrate on a couple of different occasions in July. The hard part is finding a restaurant to go to. A nice lunch place like Symposium or Williams are both closed. Going online and reading the reviews I get the sense that customer service has really gone downhill due to covid. It’s why I end up going to the same place because the food is good and the service is excellent.

The month of June brings with it mixed emotions. I see the ads for Father’s Day. I miss Janet and wish that she was going out for lunch with me. Or even going shopping. Even after almost 16 years that emptiness doesn’t go away. I have wonderful friends and family who send me love on the day. I will buy flowers to honour her. I know she is with me.